It didn’t always used to be this way. Just the other day I was reading an autobiography by Maya Angelou in which she talks about her relationship with her mother and how she changed her life. That’s the thing. A parent’s relationship with their child can change their life immeasurably.
Angelou writes of how her mother helped her learn self-reliance – a valuable trait in today’s unforgiving world: ‘By the time I was twenty-two I was living in San Francisco. I had a five-year-old son, two jobs and two rented room with cooking privileges down the hall.’
While this may sound bleak, it raises an important point. This kind of hardship is a sore point for conversation, both back then and today, but it is something that a great many young people will face, and it is something that you can only survive with the support of your parents.
I’m not talking about the traditional kind of support, financial; but rather the kind of support that involves teaching your children the skills they need to survive in this world. Self-reliance being one of them.
Angelou was one who reaped the benefits of her mother’s support, writing, ‘My policy of independence would not allow me to accept money or even a ride from my mother, but I welcomed her wisdom’. This is a key point, and something that today’s parents seem to be forgetting. Your wisdom is one of the most valuable things that you can provide your child with.